WMT Fashion Tips

What men think. Fasion Tips!
So you are probably thinking, “What does a man know about fashion?”  Well, I know more than the average bear, but thats not the point.  The point is to look good to men and you’re right, men usually don’t know fashion.  Do you get my point?  Fashion magazines and new trends are to sell clothes, not to help you get more dates.  Thats where I come in.

  1. Size is not everything!  Women are so pre-occupied with what size they are wearing.  We’ve all seen (or shown) a nice muffin top.  Ill-fitting pants can be thanked for that.  If you are a size 5 and wear a size 5, you will look fine.  Unfortunately, I see size 5 girls trying to squeeze into a size 3 or 1 or sometimes “zero”.  Ridiculous!  Wear the right size.  You wan to create a shape, not a size.  Creating unsightly lumps with ill-fitting pants, tops, bras (the under arm roll?), and panties definitely detracts from the smoothness of your shape.
  2. Work what you’ve got! Know where your assets are.  You may need an honest heterosexual male friend/lover to help you with this.  Do you have nice breasts, ass, waist, legs, eyes, skin, hair, stomache, hips, etc.  Guys all have their favorite physical attributes.  Once you figure out what you got, you need to work on accenting it.  Watch shows on personal styling (E!, Bravo, Style, all those non-men channels).  Magazines such as OK! and UsWeekly can be valuable resources on what not to wear as they tear into celebrity style.  If you know you have broad shoulders, don’t go around wearing a tube top!  If you have a heavy set chest, don’t go around covering that up!  You know men are physical and visual creatures.  Use that to your advantage.
  3. Hi Jean!  Your breath stinks! No one wants to date someone with bad hygiene. Girls don’t want men who smell like B.O. and wrinkled clothing.  Much in the same way, men don’t want a girl who doesn’t bother keeping her hair healthy or skin healthy.  Brush, hydrate, exfoliate, moisturize, blah, blah, blah.  All that good stuff.  Not only does it make you more presentable, you have the added psychological benefit of confidence.
  4. Don’t follow trends! Guess what?  Men don’t give a rats ass about what Alexander McQueen is bringing in his spring line up.  Trends are great if thats your thing, but don’t get caught up.  If the trend is to wear skinny jeans, uggs, and a poncho…. thats definitely not for everyone!  If it violates #1 or #2, thats a, “No, no!”  Find a classic look that works for your body type and stick with it.  You will have more stuff to wear and peace of mind when you are shopping.  If you really want to be trendy, buy outfits for special occasions like going to Vegas or girls night out.  Dressing to the trend every day is tiresome and men simply don’t care.
  5. Blending in can be nice. Women seem to compete on being the most glamorous one in the room.  Sadly, not everyone has a professional make-up artist and hair stylist.  Don’t try to be Hollywood.  Even “Carrie Bradshaw” (Sex in the City reference… I know, how does a man know this?) had bad outfits.  Maintain a simple sexy look.  Black is never out.  Pink is not the new black.

I have an unusual perspective as a heterosexual male with a background in fashion.  It’s sad that women take advice about fashion from other women, rather than the men they try to attract. 

Men, I repeat.  If you have any suggestions to add to this list, feel free to comment.

14 Responses to “WMT Fashion Tips”

  1. brenda, on March 26th, 2008 at 11:52 pm Said:

    I have something to add, if I may.

    BELIEVE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Say it. Think it. Exude it. Here’s a little trick I use when I am feeling particularly icky or unsure of myself, and it works. People are drawn to me when I do this. Simply say to yourself (silently of course):

    I am made of light.

    I know that sounds weird, but it works. Believe you are beautiful, say it, feel it, and you will be.

    No fashion can replace the sense of yourself as a creature made of pure light :)

  2. whatmenthink, on March 26th, 2008 at 11:58 pm Said:

    Absolutely! I’m sure you are aware that I am a big proponent of self-esteem and confidence. But this list of practical things doesn’t hurt. Men are visual.

  3. brenda, on March 27th, 2008 at 12:27 am Said:

    :) I know, but the point I was making, is you WILL be perceived (visualized) differently based on what you are projecting.

    But wearing some sexy black spikes, V-neck sweater that accentuates your curves, and a tiny dab of perfume can’t hurt :)

  4. aporia, on March 27th, 2008 at 8:00 am Said:

    “I am made of light.”

    I said it. And couldn’t stop myself from cracking up.

  5. brenda, on March 28th, 2008 at 12:58 am Said:

    LOL..

    Well, that’s the phrase that works for me. But find one for you, and you’ll see what I mean :)

  6. gemmykim, on March 28th, 2008 at 7:03 pm Said:

    99% of the time, Carrier Bradshaw’s outfits were horrible…even if she was trying to be fashion forward…average women/viewers would never wear many of her outfits…

  7. whatmenthink, on March 28th, 2008 at 7:20 pm Said:

    gemmykim:

    Well, her fashion was very forward and for an older generation. A lot of retro-throwback. If you watched the show at the time of broadcast, she was like a runway test model. However, I do agree that a lot of her outfits were fundamentally flawed. Some designer trying to think outside the box.

  8. S E E Quine, on April 2nd, 2008 at 5:18 am Said:

    ` Excellent article. I came here from Cara Hurley’s blog. The other day, someone told my boyfriend that I would look so hot if I just didn’t dress in such frumpy clothings. This is true.
    ` It is also deliberate because I am sick and tired of men coming up to me and asking me out. (It’s so awkward, especially when they look crestfallen when I have to tell them ‘no’!!) And it works - tons of guys still talk to me but I have yet to be asked out or given a phone number!
    ` So, I guess this is right - there is a way to dress to attract men… and if ya don’t, they will stay away!

  9. whatmenthink, on April 2nd, 2008 at 5:21 am Said:

    S E E Quine:

    Well, I don’t think most men know about women’s fashion. I even wrote a post on “Don’t ask a man about women’s fashion.” These are actually for women who might want some fashion advice from me personally.

  10. Cara, on April 2nd, 2008 at 5:43 am Said:

    I love this picture:

    http://img249.imageshack.us/img249/9905/toiletmonstercostumenq0.jpg ;-)

  11. ardenB, on April 4th, 2008 at 5:42 pm Said:

    i Love Love your thoughts on fashion! I agree 100% WMT you are the best!

  12. TD, on April 16th, 2008 at 4:43 pm Said:

    Great to see the topic of fashion explored through this lens…in particular, the notion that fashion is a medium for expressing a person’s underlying attitude. You and your readers might enjoy The Tom Drake Experience (http://tdexperience.wordpress.com), as it explores similar topics through the use of fictional stories.

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  14. lyla lou, on June 25th, 2008 at 12:02 pm Said:

    Since I’ve gotten older and lazier, you will almost always find me in the bar wearing jeans and a t-shirt. I only dress up for special occasions, and it really has not made a difference, the same number of guys that hit on me when I’m wearing a cute skirt, still hit on me in my jeans. Plus I’m more comfy.

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