WMT: “Use ‘em ‘n’ Abuse ‘em.”

**DISCLAIMER: Please, read this post in it’s entirety, from beginning to end.

This is not a new concept to the game of dating. Men all around the world prescribe to this ideology. Tom Leykis is a radio personality who propagates this idea through his nationally syndicated talk show. To give you an idea of just how popular this idea is, the Tom Leykis Show is ARBITRON rated #1 for males 18-54 in Los Angeles and a top ranked show in many metropolitan areas.

For a large portion of my college years, I followed the rules of “Leykis 101“(check this link to see the rules) and it worked very well. As Tom would say, “I got more ass than a toilet seat”. Let me go ahead and say, “If you are looking for maximum sexual encounters for minimal effort, this is definitely the way to go.” People like to argue that Tom Leykis doesn’t know what he is talking about, but they are wrong. I know this from first-hand experience.

However, there are some underlying principles that are necessary for his teachings to work.

1. You are not looking for a relationship. This is only about sex. You do not believe in marriage, having children, or commitment.
2. You target attractive females who lackself-esteem. Sadly, this isn’t hard to find.
3. You do not value women for more than their physical appearance.
4. You are confident in your superiority to the women you meet.
5. You NEVER break the rules of Leykis 101 for any reason. Period.

If you are a female reader and you are thinking, “This would never work on me!”, let us evaluate the former statement :

1. Have you ever found yourself sleeping with a complete jerk? You may have unknowingly fallen prey.
2. Do you like “Bad Boys” instead of dorky, sweet “Nice Guys”? You have definitely fallen prey.
3. If neither of the previous are true, you are probably a confident and mature woman. Unfortunately, many times it takes a lot of bad experiences from #1 and #2 to get where you are.
4. There are women who are intelligent, wise, and savvy at an early age. However, my experience dictates that these women are few and rare. How many of you women have a girl friend that makes the wrong choices over and over again?

The men who follow Leykis 101 avoid women of 25 years of age (but over 18-years-old) and older. Why?

1. Women in their early 20s are usually going through a lot of emotional changes and personal growth. They easily fall prey to low self-esteem and self-doubt. They are young and beautiful. The two characteristics make them ideal targets.
2. Women in their early 20s have less romantic experience. They can be naive, idealistic and easily tricked into bed.

Obviously, I no longer prescribe to Leykis 101, because of my new found Christian beliefs. However, I do respect Tom Leykis for one thing. He is honest. He encourages men to be up front and let the women know there is no chance for a relationship. He publicly shares his views to men and women alike, allowing women to learn from his talk show (they rarely do). I believe he is entitled to think and act as he pleases. You cannot change his mind by rhetoric, reasoning or argument. He is very intelligent and his thoughts are perfectly in line with his personal beliefs/morals. We cannot judge him for that. Even as a Christian, I do not judge him. Freedom of choice is a foundational belief to Christianity. If it were not so, Satan would have been destroyed upon his rebellion, right?

So, why do I share these thoughts with you?

1. Many beautiful women have low self-esteem because their sisters tear them down out of jealousy. This is sad.
2. It is important to understand how these men think, so that you can avoid becoming their next sexual adventure.
3. It is important to know that you cannot change/fix these men.
4. You must value yourself so that you will not find yourself being “Used ‘n’ Abused”.

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