WMT: He called me at ? o’clock

Posted on April 26, 2008 by whatmenthink

He called you back! Great news, right? Well, WMT discusses the significance of when “HE” called you back.

  1. 15 minutes after dropping you off. Ahhh… He called you or texted you to make sure you arrived home safely. How sweet! Well, it really depends. Did he drop you off at 7pm after a nice dinner date? Did he call you after meeting you in the club at 1am? If a guy texts or calls after a casual dinner date, he is trying to convey his affection and concern for you. If he texted or called late into the night, he’s definitely fishing for an opportunity for S-E-X.
  2. Morning call! Did you wake up to a call or text? This means only one of two things: Desperate loser/stalker or enamored male admirer. There’s a thin line between the two, and that line is your level of interest in him.
  3. 3-day Rule. He waits the customary 3-days to call you. Let’s face it. Everyone and their mother and their grandmother seems to believe this is the secret rule. It’s not! It’s so widely known and publicly received, its nothing more than a ritual. It can mean he is really interested in you and doesn’t want to scare you off, or he could simply be playing the game. It means nothing.
  4. A few weeks later. Seriously… if he waits this long, he was very lonely/horny and found your number. Anyone with genuine interest wouldn’t need that much time. Enough said.
  5. Out of the blue. Its been months or years. You ran into each other on the street. He IMed you for no reason. He messaged you on a social networking site. Whatever the case may be. If he didn’t find interest in you before, why is he contacting you now??? a) You are a lot hotter now and he wants to sleep with you b) He wants to sleep with you

Just cause he calls, doesn’t mean its a good thing. I have a feeling some men may be unhappy about this post. =) WMT keeps it real.

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18 Responses to “WMT: He called me at ? o’clock”

  1. Cara, on April 26th, 2008 at 11:44 am Said:

    I agree with EVERYTHING you wrote.

    x

    Cara

  2. iulisis, on April 26th, 2008 at 12:38 pm Said:

    ideas are not bad … but it seems like you’re criticizing EVERY possible time a guy calls. if he calls soonish … it’s wrong because it’s too soon … if he calls later, he’s just bored/horny/not interested.
    Well then … when is the good time for him to call?? You see … we can criticize as much as we want, but whenever you do, you need to look into the good stuff as well, especially when talking about people. Not everyone is the same. Some might have some GOOD intentions, for a change.
    Not all men are scum.

  3. uncabledheart, on April 26th, 2008 at 1:35 pm Said:

    Yep. Me too.

    But you left one off: when they call the next evening because they really really like you. No games. No pretending. No bull :) Just sincerity and excitement to connect again.

    It happens! :)

  4. whatmenthink, on April 26th, 2008 at 2:03 pm Said:

    iulisis:
    I don’t think you read the post closely enough. Instead you were quick to criticize.

    Brenda:
    These are really possible pitfalls. I most certainly believe that a good guy who is genuinely interested in you will call the day after.

    I usually post 5 ideas/concepts/scenarios. This is never meant to represent the entirety of the topic. It is only meant to show a fraction of topic.

  5. uncabledheart, on April 26th, 2008 at 3:36 pm Said:

    :) I wasn’t criticizing, I was trying to voice some hope :)

  6. iulisis, on April 26th, 2008 at 10:51 pm Said:

    I’m not saying that what you just said never happens … it’s encountered quite often as a matter of fact. And you are right.
    I was just trying to mention other posibilities.

  7. whatmenthink, on April 27th, 2008 at 4:06 am Said:

    uncabledheart:
    =) I know.

  8. uncabledheart, on April 27th, 2008 at 11:24 am Said:

    :)

  9. uncabledheart, on April 27th, 2008 at 11:25 am Said:

    okay, i’ve just accepted that you’re not my friend antonio, because he doesn’t use smileys. and you do :)

    whew! i’m glad i’ve finally cleared that up :)

    (of course, you could be him using the smileys as a ruse to throw me off the trail ;)

  10. Timbre, on April 28th, 2008 at 6:01 pm Said:

    I am laughing out loud! So much so I almost peed a little.

    I agree with EVERYTHING…there may be one slight exception, the guy who calls because he’s a territorial sociopath and he wants to keep tabs on you…Creepy.

  11. Mason Stanley, on April 28th, 2008 at 9:37 pm Said:

    Those are all true and the irony behind everything is the way the call/text comes of is based ENTIRELY on the woman’s opinion on the guy. All of those scenarios can come off as the guy is a creeper stalker or can be construed as a sweetheart depending on what the woman thinks of him.

  12. thankgodfor, on April 29th, 2008 at 4:08 am Said:

    What about drunken phone calls at 4 a.m. when men confess their love to you? I ask because it happens to me a lot. It gets kind of annoying. I mean, I understand men are too intimidated by my greatness to say it to me sober and in person, but a girl’s gotta sleep sometimes. ;)

  13. whatmenthink, on April 29th, 2008 at 4:19 am Said:

    thankgodfor:
    Oh.. yeah I’ll try to stop doing that… =D

  14. dadshouse, on April 29th, 2008 at 6:59 am Said:

    WMT - you nailed what men think once again! Great post.
    (Now then, where’s her number… )

  15. whatmenthink, on April 29th, 2008 at 7:03 am Said:

    Thanks dadshouse! I recently reccomended your blog and mssinglemama’s blog to a single parent friend of mine!

    Thanks for the positive review on Blogged.com!

  16. thankgodfor, on April 29th, 2008 at 10:12 pm Said:

    Suggestion for future post!

    What Men Think about women who take/wear men’s clothes. I guess “take” isn’t the best adjective, but when they “borrow” an article of clothing (i.e. sweats, t-shirt, sweater, sleep clothes) and don’t return it. I feel like most women do this with their significant others’ clothing.

  17. Mo Morrissey, on April 30th, 2008 at 3:59 am Said:

    Along the lines of ThankGodFor’s suggestion: women who wear men’s sports jerseys.

    Anyway, it’s been a while since I was wondering if I should call her or not call, but when I was I just followed this rule: if I was interested and had a good time, I called, emailed what have you to touch base and let her know that I had a good time.

    It wasn’t often that my impression and hers was all that different.

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